Second chances

What does it mean to give someone a second chance? Or even a third, fourth, or even fifth chance? Are they even worth it? Especially if it’s chance number 3 and more, because then it’s routine. And giving someone too many chances give THEM the advantage, not you by having them back. Giving someone too many chances, especially after they’ve fucked up so bad, is giving them the control and hold over you. It’s bad enough giving them another try, but it’s even worse when they have that control over you; when they know they can just come back to you whenever they want (a safety net). And you certainly don’t want that! 

I’ve had my fair share of giving someone way too many chances when I should of left them oh so long ago!  Because they knew they could just come back and that I would take them back. It was definitely not fair. Because it’s a constant repeated routine pain, and after a while you might not even notice it or even feel anything. And that’s a bad sign. That’s a sign that you know you need to be walking away. And do it with your head up high! Let them know that they can’t and wont control you anymore, that they can’t just come back to you whenever it’s convenient for them! That them hurting you is not worth your time or your energy! And that you’re done, for good! Because you deserve so much better than what you’ve been getting!

I personally don’t believe that people can change. No one can ever change who they really are. But, there are some very few rare exceptions out there that realize once they’ve lost something that they “care” about, they’ll realize and come to the conclusion that they need and want it back. And when and if that happens, don’t give in just yet. Because those that truly care… Will wait. Unless enough time on its own has passed, at least 6 months, make them wait. Let them know that you need time to heal from the past before you can venture again for the future. And if they really do care and really do want you back, they’ll do whatever they can to please you, no matter how long, what it is, and how to do it.

So in conclusion, don’t give in too easily. And if something like this has, or is, happening to you or someone you know… You know what to do now. Wither it’s as simple as walking away and ignoring everything at once, or telling them to go fuck themselves! I know it’s easier said than done, trust me. But once you do it and start realizing that you’re better off without them anyway, you’ll feel so much better again! And you’ll feel like everything about you and around you is new and fresh, and you’re ready to go out and explore this enormous world for something new and amazing!